5 More Sexual Questions Thant Need To Be Answered
You would be a little surprised if you knew how many questions both women and men have about their sexual relationships. I am going to answer 5 of those questions in today’s blog. I state this often, but I will state it again. Everyone is different and what may be the right answer for some people may not be the answer for others. Lets jump into these questions with the same enthusiasm and excitement we would jump onto our sexual partner. Okay, I knew that was a long shot, but lets answer these questions anyway.
1. Should I be okay with my husband not wanting to have sex with me while I am pregnant?
This is not a new question. Many men shy away from engaging in intercourse with their wives while they are pregnant fearing they could injure the unborn child. Although most know that participating in intercourse is not going to hurt the baby; others will always be afraid to take the chance. Chances are this is the reason your husband avoids sexual penetration. However, if you feel he simply won’t budge on this remind him that sex is more than just intercourse. There are many ways to pleasure you to an orgasm without ever penetrating. In addition, you can pleasure him without intercourse as well. If he still refuses to participate than his problem may be completely different altogether.
2. Oral sex makes me self-conscious. How can I get past this problem?
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to excel at this art overnight. As with anything in life practice makes perfect. Only you know how self-conscious you are and why. Are you shy? Were you raised to believe this sexual act was dirty? If you want to please your lover by participating i oral sex than just keep trying to get better at it. Ask him what feels good and what does not. Furthermore, while you are excelling at this for him make sure he is excelling on giving it to you as well. Sexual pleasure is a two way street. Practice will build confidence for you and reward him in the long run.
3. My husband has put on some weight and does not want to have sex. What should I do?
Some men are just like women and I don’t mean that in a bad way. Women and men are typically wired different, but this is one of those issues both sexes share. If we don’t feel good about ourselves we become unhappy and when we become unhappy we often eat in pursuit of comfort. We all know the answer to this question. Your husband needs to lose some weight and you can help him. Make it fun going on walks, engage in some activities that will help him drop the pounds. Don’t cook him fatty foods and encourage him to avoid food heavy in sugars. Ensure him that you love him and you are there to support him. Let him know that losing the weight will not only make him feel better about himself and sex, but be better for his overall health.
4. Am I a bad wife if I still fantasize about a hot guy I knew in college?
It is not unusual for people to fantasize about others in their past. As long as you are not calling the guy up for phone sex, or making plans to meet him and act out your fantasy than you are not a bad wife. If you can put the energy and excitement accumulated to good work by turning it towards the husband you love than it can be made into a positive.
5. How can I help my husband to last longer during intercourse?
Exercising his PC muscles would be a good way to start. These are the same muscles men use if they wanted to stop urinating before they are finished with the act. By practicing that method every day you should notice a difference in his ability to hold back that orgasm in several weeks. In addition, you can change directions when you think he is getting close. If you think he is about there tell him you want to change positions. Also try to get off a few times in foreplay before you engage in intercourse. Another thing you can do is help him to get off before intercourse because most men last longer the second time around.
Final thoughts
There are many more questions out there about sex in the relationship and we will answer more in future blogs. Sexual enhancement can be obtained in many ways. In many cases the problem is mental and not physical at all. Keep in mind that we will get out of sex what we put into it. Both in the sexual relationship must do their part to practice sexual enhancement techniques. Communication, compassion and understanding are still crucial factors in the sexual relationship.