Dissecting Sexual Myths
I find it a little painful to use the words “dissecting” and “sex” in the same breath for some reason. Men tend to become a little squeamish when we think about sharp instruments and our sexual body parts. Fortunately in this case I am using the word “dissecting” in a different form. Alright guys you can stop grinding your teeth now.
In my blog today I would like to explore a few of the sexual myths that seem to linger endlessly over us, creating anxiety and stress we simply don’t need. It is hard enough to live up to the sexual expectations of today. It is not about keeping up with the Jones anymore, but about keeping up with the sexual performances displayed in porn or the epic love scenes often glaring at us from the latest chick flick.
It is no wonder men are so self conscious about our sexual ability. Men are under immense pressure to perform well in the bedroom, or wherever sex is being enjoyed. So what are the sexual myths that cause us the most stress? We worry about the size of our penis, our sexual stamina and our inability to find the secret sought after G-Spot.
Stop Thinking With Our Penis
As men we must stop thinking with our penis. Studies have shown that most women don’t care about size. The truth is, although women love intercourse as much as we do, they actually tend to have better orgasms through oral sex. The average penis size when erect is about 5-6 inches. Obviously some are bigger and some are smaller. Here is the thing. If you know how to satisfy your partner orally, the size of your penis will never be a deciding factor. Don’t get hung up on penis size. It is up to us to know our women and then use their feedback and our love making skills to get the job done with the tools at our disposal.
The Ever Elusive G-Spot
Wow. Really? The debate over the elusive G-Spot goes on and on. Some specialists say it exists and others say it does not. It is my experience that if you know your way around a women’s clitoris, than you have found the G-Spot. There may be a slight difference in what feels good or better and certain things may get her motor running faster, but it is all about the clitoris and the Virgina. There is no secret. Talk to your partner and ask her what makes her feel good. It should not be a guessing game. You are not taking a quiz. Know what makes her feel good and then put her over the edge.
The Minute Man
Our sexual stamina stresses us. No man in his right mind wants to be referred to as the “Minute Man” by a women. Of course there are some men that may be out to please themselves and could care less. For many men, such as myself, we are not pleased until our women are. For that reason it is imperative to us that we don’t ejaculate prematurely. Typically if a man ejaculates in a minute or less it is considered premature.
However, it is really different from guy to guy and situation to situation. It has something to do with the way men are put together. Most men are going to have an orgasm before their partner does. A recent study displayed that only 25% of the women polled had an orgasm during intercourse. Take care of her orally first and then give it your best shot during intercourse. I am not saying it is not important to excel at intercourse; I am simply saying it is something that has to be worked on and does not need to be a sex killer.
Life is too short for us to spend it stressing over our penis size, our sexual stamina or trying to locate the perfect G-Spot. We can master the art of sex using the very tools we were born with and the knowledge we picked up over the years. Take the time to explore your lover’s needs, give them your complete focus and get down to business. Stop stressing and start making love.